And then it happens, the most terrifying thing of all: you meet someone you actually really like, and that’s where the real difficulty begins.
Hi Ada, I read your two comments and your post below.
When I was on an online dating website, I would sometimes be emailing a few guys at the same time.
It’s usually a mutually agreeable decision and it could happen at any time.
I think as a mature dater, it’s not unreasonable to lay this foundation in the early dates.
And, you’re busy with work and other commitments, so you rationalize you don’t have time to keep playing the field. The social, fun loving guy seems to drink just a little bit too much. Even if he asks you to be exclusive right away or says he isn’t dating others, continue to keep your options open.
Maybe it just feels so right that you both agree to be exclusive with one another after a few dates. This is so important because it enables you to compare and contrast different men so you can truly find the best guy for you.
Personally, I tend to think that if you’ve been dating someone regularly for a couple of months and they’re not ready to commit to an exclusive relationship with you, they probably never will be.
If you haven’t convinced them of how remarkably brilliant you are after this time, what’s going to change?
Just ask him to tell you what honestly happened and keep an open mind.
If you want to date him exclusively, then ask him if that’s an option.